This topic it’s quite sensitive so I will try my best to tread carefully, there can be speculations among friends, concerning a person or two in their clique. Assumptions a person could be gay or suspicion on the odd one out. In my years in life I discovered a man could be more in touch with his feminine side than others, which may label him as gay, sometimes this might not be true. Even if every item on the list applied to you, it doesn’t mean you’re gay. Gender is a gamut, and so is sexuality. Remember that sexuality is not limited to gay and straight. There are bi-sexual, pansexual, and asexual people too, and that is not an exhaustive list. Humans are afraid of the things they cannot understand, and because of that we try and label things. Here are signs that might tell you your friend is gay
Bathroom rituals; okay we know some men take extra care of themselves, when you go to their bathrooms, you will be amazed by the variation of product you see lined up in their cabinet. They come out looking like a prince of some rich island. Don’t get me wrong, it’s great when a man puts in much effort in taking care of himself, but if he takes two hours to get ready then things starts to get very interesting and suspicious!
Toilet habit: Gay men who haven’t yet “come out of the closet” often feel uncomfortable in public toilets, they either don’t go or use the toilet rather than the urinals. When he refuses to visit a public toilet and instead wants to go home, it might be a reminder of how uncomfortable he is about his sexuality. Let’s not forget that some people are really comfortable using their own toilet, so keep observing not labeling.
He has a strong opinion about gay men: Most straight men cannot understand gays. Remember this doesn’t mean they are homophobic, they just cannot understand why a man would choose other men over women. If your friend regularly talks about how gay men had a hard fight and should be accepted, or quotes gay men or Oprah, he might be trying to justify his sexuality.
His game characters: Gay men will often pick a female character in a game, or choose a very hunky man. The reason for this is unknown, but it is psychologically proven to be correct! A study shows that a larger percent of gay men chooses to play the character Storm (x-men), while straight men choose from a range of men. So watch his gaming habits and see what character he picks as his avatar. Let’s not forget there are some men feminine in nature, they might just like characterizing things on such.
They make a lot of excuses: He typically dates women who aren’t interested in sex, are so insecure they easily internalize a lack of physical contact, or are virgins. They make random excuses of not stepping up to the plate or just avoid necessary topics. This sign you can’t ignore obviously, it is best you find out what is wrong, “have the talk”
Secret wandering eyes: this also applies to straight men but only towards the opposite sex, when close to another man, if you notice he stare at his body then he might be gay. For example, a guy passes by and he turns to look at him behind or have this glint of excitement in his eyes. This is a strong hint!
Other people assume the same thing: when everyone assumes he’s gay (even when he is not) it’s easy to follow the crowd and not observe yourself. Word of the mouth can be powerful, you best confirm something before you open your mouth, because assuming such could wreck a person’s image and spoil your friendship.
Compliments: Listen to the way he compliments you. Does he tell you that you look beautiful, or tell you that your jacket goes great with those skinny jeans, and you should finish the look with diamante boots and pink nail varnish? Gay men are often very fashionable, so see how clued up he is
Note: some gay men have no fashion sense, in fact they act like regular men. This could throw you off too
Even if you find out your friend is gay or this attributes i have mentioned helped with your assumption. It is best you accept them the way they are, just because you don’t understand them doesn’t mean they are any different. Remember he is human too!!!